Marriage Archive

  • In a recent interview with Essence Magazine, white soul singer Robin Thicke, who has been married to actress Paula Patton for 18 years, was asked, “The media often tells black women that they’re better off dating white guys. What’s your...

    Robin Thicke Says “Most White Men Won’t Understand You”

    In a recent interview with Essence Magazine, white soul singer Robin Thicke, who has been married to actress Paula Patton for 18 years, was asked, “The media often tells black women that they’re better off dating white guys. What’s your...

    Continue Reading...

  • Approximately four months ago, a 49-year-old woman sent me this unsolicited message out of the blue. I found her offensive. I found the exchange amusing. I tend to be African Centered, but i will not down a sister, who had...

    Black Bigots Setting Terms for OTHER Black People’s Interracial Relationships

    Approximately four months ago, a 49-year-old woman sent me this unsolicited message out of the blue. I found her offensive. I found the exchange amusing. I tend to be African Centered, but i will not down a sister, who had...

    Continue Reading...

  • (The thoughts of a white man on how to cope with the stares interracial couples are commonly subjected to. This is written as an open letter to me from my guy.) I really don’t notice when people are staring, because...

    Stares and Silent Judgment

    (The thoughts of a white man on how to cope with the stares interracial couples are commonly subjected to. This is written as an open letter to me from my guy.) I really don’t notice when people are staring, because...

    Continue Reading...

  • Someone once asked, why be in an interracial relationship if I’m so proud of my culture? Leaving aside the fact that although most interracial relationships are intercultural, interracial does not necessarily mean intercultural (and vice versa) – here are some...

    Why Be in an Intercultural Relationship?

    Someone once asked, why be in an interracial relationship if I’m so proud of my culture? Leaving aside the fact that although most interracial relationships are intercultural, interracial does not necessarily mean intercultural (and vice versa) – here are some...

    Continue Reading...

  • Several months ago, I was online discussing interracial relationships and marriage with black women and non-black men when a black male teen who admitted he’d been sent by an older black man interrupted to ask me: What’s more important to...

    No Wedding No Womb: Does Marriage Matter?

    Several months ago, I was online discussing interracial relationships and marriage with black women and non-black men when a black male teen who admitted he’d been sent by an older black man interrupted to ask me: What’s more important to...

    Continue Reading...

  • I’m grateful, in a way, for all of the questions – positive and negative – I’ve seen about culture and cultural blending in relationships around the internet, because without them, I wouldn’t have done so much reflecting on the topic...

    He Says/She Says: Cultural Blending

    I’m grateful, in a way, for all of the questions – positive and negative – I’ve seen about culture and cultural blending in relationships around the internet, because without them, I wouldn’t have done so much reflecting on the topic...

    Continue Reading...

  • One of my regular readers, who is interracially married, wrote expressing difficulty choosing a church that both she and her husband could feel comfortable worshiping in: “It’s been a while since [my husband and I] attended … church [#1]. At...

    Faith and Interracial Relationships

    One of my regular readers, who is interracially married, wrote expressing difficulty choosing a church that both she and her husband could feel comfortable worshiping in: “It’s been a while since [my husband and I] attended … church [#1]. At...

    Continue Reading...

  • I was horrified, sickened, and saddened to find on some other site the following post, which I’ve excerpted here: “Why do some black women give up on black men by choosing to remain lonely or dating white men? We black...

    Relationships and the “Strong Black Woman”

    I was horrified, sickened, and saddened to find on some other site the following post, which I’ve excerpted here: “Why do some black women give up on black men by choosing to remain lonely or dating white men? We black...

    Continue Reading...