Hi there,
I just wanted to comment… I’m a white man who has found himself falling in love with a black woman. I’ve dated outside my race one time before, but this woman is amazing. She is a doctor and a professor, and when I listen to her, and converse with her, she really gives me a run for my money, and I really enjoy her, and the mental stimulation she provides. When I see her, I don’t even notice her skin tone, I just see her beauty, and it leaves me breathless with an elevated heartbeat.
I was browsing around on the internet seeking more knowledge about IR, especially black women and white men… I want to better appreciate what she may be feeling about falling in love with a white man. I know that we all have pressures and stereotypes imposed externally, and sometime internally that confuse us. I’ve always believed that people should be allowed to love and marry whom they choose; however, I also know that society often seems to frown, and strongly points us at “certain” allowable relationships, and the BW-WM seems to be one of the most disfavored by certain segments.
My perception thus far has been that black women who opt to date white men, are often the subject of extreme negativity from black men, and many white women as well. Maybe my perception is wrong, I don’t know, it’s just my perception from my life experiences, (I’m 43) so I’m not a young man. It honestly blows my mind to think that a person could be considered as betraying their race by dating outside it; then, get bush wacked as being a racist for not dating outside the race…all in the same condemning breath. It seems like black women are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.
At any rate I was thrilled to find your website, and although your target audience is black women, I as a white man, who’s the subject of a black woman’s affectionate interest… I want to know all I can about what thoughts, feelings and pressures she may be facing as a result of her decision to bless me with her affections. This quest found me here looking at all your articles, so please keep this in your mind that some of us men out here want to devour and comprehend the IR. Your audience is wider than you may realize…
In closing, I’ll say that I’m a little scared by the historic negative norms of this type of IR; but when I see her face all my fears melt into silence, and the world disappears… She takes my breath away and all I see is her.
~C.
Dear C,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts in this beautiful letter. I am sure that many women and men will enjoy and learn from your experiences. Actually, you are welcome to comment on my site as you wish. Yes, the site was created for black women who are in or have an interest in interracial relationships, but after receiving many comments and messages from men wanting to discuss their interests and relationships with black women, and from black women wanting to know what the men were thinking, I realize that this site can only become richer when we can interact with one another.
It’s a wonderful thing, isn’t it, when you meet someone whom you know is just worth it, come what may. I get the idea from your message that this is what you feel for her, and what she feels for you.
On the topic of social negativity, we were once on the receiving end of a loud rant in public from a black man, and have received glares from some black men, passive-aggressive looks from head to toe from a few very young white women which is sometimes followed by flips of the hair or suggestive poses that are perhaps meant to catch his attention, “if looks could kill” glares from elderly white women, and an infinite stream of hostile cyber-messages from many black men and a few black women. Besides cowardly internet fruitbaskets, we receive little raw hostility, actually. Most people take a second glance, but many of those looks are mere curious or even accompanied by friendly smiles or even friendly comments.
We experienced incidents of external pressure. One occurred in college. A blonde female friend frequently pointed out random black guys who showed interest in me and kept subtly implying that my guy, who was my boyfriend then, would only toy with me or use me for sex. She was so clever with all of her mindgames – never saying anything directly – that at times I was couldn’t be sure if she was actually saying what I thought she was, or if it was I who was beginning to subconsciously doubt my relationship and just projecting the doubts onto her words. Being around someone who is skilled in mindgames can do a number on your mind and make you doubt even yourself. When her mindgames failed to sabotage my relationship, she sent my boyfriend highly provocative photos of herself. The games ended when he immediately forwarded the pictures to me so I’d know what she was up to. She claimed she’d just been looking out for me by testing him – but I let the friendship die. Ironically, it was she and her steady boyfriend who ended up breaking up shortly after. Her guy started to lose his battle with clinical depression, and she cheated on and then dumped him.
Another incident took place shortly after I graduated. My guy and I lived in two different cities. He acquired an apartment for us with the plan that we would immediately have a civil marriage at the County Clerk’s office, and then plan a wedding ceremony with family and friends. The moving company ripped me off, leaving me only with the clothes on my back, so we didn’t make it to the County Clerk. The landladies, a middle-aged white lesbian couple, took to him immediately upon meeting him (everyone likes him), embracing him like a son. He told them I’d be arriving and moving in two days after he did; they agreed and informed him of the rent, and said they trusted him so much that they wouldn’t make him sign a lease. When I arrived, they were cold to me and barely acknowledged me, though they continued to treat him warmly. After 5 days, they pretended to have had no prior knowledge that I would be a tenant, and demanded we pay nearly double the rent immediately. The questions and comments they made to him privately – “What does your family think of her?” “Does your mother like her?” and “Well, we like you. You can stay,” after he informed them that we could not pay it and would have to leave – made their motives clear. The cost of relocating, security, rent and the fact that the moving company doubled what they were charging set us back financially. We had no choice but to put the marriage on hold, give up the apartment and, in my case, to return to my city. He ultimately obligated the landladies to return all monies plus extra under threat of a lawsuit, and I did get my stuff from the moving company. Ironically, the landladies’ lesbian relationship ended very badly, and the two were forced by a court to sell off their properties and split the profits. They ultimately had to sell for far less than market value – meaning they lost a lot of money.
Rather than being thankful for what they had and using their energy to secure and build on it so that they could be happy, the individuals chose to be a negative obstacle in our lives. Yet, we are the ones who are still together and going strong today, while the lives of those who tried to ruin our relationship are in shambles. My ex-friend could not break into journalism in her dead-end town after graduation, and became a stripper at a cheap joint. I don’t take pleasure in her misfortune, since I once cared about her and she cared about me in her own twisted way. She just was never sure what to do with me when she realized I didn’t feel inferior. When I first met her, she randomly blurted out cliché reassurances about my hair and skin tone (i.e. “But you can do so much with your hair!” and a few remarks I see in this video) as if she’d looked up and memorized a list. I felt embarrassed for her, and pretended not to notice. She grew up in a tiny town where everyone shared her color, so she didn’t know how to deal with me as simply a human being. When she realized I didn’t need her reassurances due to being very comfortable with myself, she felt confused and then threatened…and the games began. Anywho, I do feel vindicated in the case of those awful landladies. I am sure they receive far more harassment for being lesbians (one is butch, so strangers know) – yet they treated me like an alien and acted as if our relationship was unnatural.
Externally, things haven’t been smooth as glass. Internally, I feel at peace in my relationship. When we first met, we were similar, as life-transforming experiences had shaped us to have similar thinking patterns, so the initial connection was natural. We met while young enough to still be finding ourselves, so we each contributed heavily to the other’s personal growth – which is intense, because you always feel as if a piece of the other lives within you when they help make you who you are. We developed a powerful bond, growing together and learning to understand each other’s needs, so it’s difficult for me to imagine anyone who could complement me more perfectly. He tells me the same often in regards to himself. I can’t say that I yearn for, or wonder what it would be like to be in a relationship with a man who shared my color, or feel as if I am missing anything. This is my normal. He is my normal. I wish you two the best, and encourage you to keep letting the ignorance of the society fall away, and focus on the love you feel for each other. Love that is deep and true will help you weather the storms of life, together, as we have.
Just remember that she is the only one who knows exactly what she may be thinking, feeling, and experiencing, so she is the best person to ask. Don’t hesitate to communicate.
Wow!! Your story sounds like it could be a movie! <>
I’ve been with my husband 16yrs and there are people in my hometown asking my Mom if we are still together — because IR marriages are always expected to fail more than same race marriages**rolls eyes**. People can be so ignorant and narrow-minded. Even a former best friend wrote me a letter discouraging me from marrying my husband because she felt that he was wrong for me. I forgave her, but we are no longer close and don’t really communicate. I’ve learned to be strong and block out negative and bitter people from my life. People may say they have your best interest at heart, but they are really trying to push their own prejudiced agenda. In the end we have to happy and live with our choices. I believe in Karma, so if someone tries to sabatoge the happiness of another, they get it back tenfold. Your story proves that and ultimately you and your husband are still standing. Thank you for blogs like these that offer encouragement to those of us BW who chose to love across the color line.
Not all types of interracial marriages fail at a higher rate; actually, white men/black women marriages were shown in the study “But Will It Last: Marital Stability Among Interracial and Same Race Couples” to be the most successful type of interracial relationship and more successful than even the average marriage between a white man and white woman.
Nearly all of these naysayers are bitter and miserable themselves, and just seeking company. This is what I learned. I agree with you…we are the ones who would be filled with regrets if we let negative people determine the way we live our lives. We have to hone our own instincts so that we can determine on our own who is right for us, and then we won’t be so susceptible to those who deliberately give out advice that’s not in our best interest but has only to do with their own prejudiced agenda.
Hi Velour,
Thank you for sharing your experiences. I’ve noticed that when we walk hand in hand, and arm in arm people do often look at us twice. But so far, it only seems and feels like they are thinking to themselves, wow, good for them! I’ve noticed mostly faint smiles. I’ve not perceived any external hostility, and I really don’t care if I do. After I started thinking about it, I don’t care what other people think; especially if it is negative. What gives them the right?
I survived the war in Afghanistan, and I survived the war in Iraq. I have earned the right to love this woman, and I will guard this relationship from all enemies foreign and domestic. On my word as a combat veteran I shall give to her true faith and allegiance to the same, as I did for the nation I love so deep. I swear she must have been a military commander in a past life; I surrendered all my forces immediately…I just gave up and surrendered just like that! She pulled off a perfect pincer maneuver on my heart. Impressive! I honestly did not see this coming. It was like BAM, give it up buddy, you’re surrounded.
But now I’ve been dreaming and longing for an engagement of a whole different kind… I have been diamond shopping! OMG, I’ve been diamond shopping! Jewelry stores are all located in enemy territory! Humm, now I have to pull off the perfect proposal… sounds like a mission…Pray for me, I’m crossing phase line gold; I am going to marry this woman, but I already know she will say yes, I just do…
No fear!
We need the video of your proposal (and wedding)! Just joking.
All the best.
There’s no video of the proposal lol. I thought about sharing the wedding photos or videos, but my hubby said he’d never do that. He says it’s too personal. I’m sure we’ll make videos soon after we finish building our house and have some time – but there won’t ever be a wedding video. He really doesn’t feel comfortable with it and has his mind made up. Thanks for the well wishes.
Actually, now that I think more about it, I agree with him. Our wedding photos and videos won’t be on public display, because that’s just not our style. We had a wedding with just close family and friends.
Anyway, we’ll definitely be making videos, though not on that YouTube channel, because we will be doing and discussing various things, and not necessarily talking about interracial relationships. The information about the videos will be posted on the site, in any case. It won’t be too far off.
Velour I can surely understand your husbands wishes.
Wonderful! Congratulations on your decision to propose. Hopefully, she says yes! You can let us know when she does.
(This is the C who wrote the letter in the article above).
I am a bit late regarding this article, but you are in my prayer soldier. And thank you for serving our country,putting your precious life on the line for all of us. God bless you and your lady love (engagement).
What a wonderful post!
I’m glad to see more non-black men starting to be more vocal about relationships with BW. All those people who tried to put up obstacles and were negative toward your relationship had their resentments thrown back at them times 10. I don’t take any joy in that either but it just goes to show that what you put out there WILL come back to you.
Thanks. I took a slight bit of joy in the downfall of those two women (though not my ex-friend, whom I still wish the best), to be honest. I hear that they had to file for bankruptcy due to all the debts they incurred. The thing is that there was no reason at all for them to be so hateful to me when they didn’t even know me. I’d only ever said hi and smiled, expecting them to be nice after what my then-fiancé had said about how sweet they were – and they couldn’t even manage to force smiles (one tried and failed). They did destroy my life temporarily, because I was basically penniless afterward and it was a humiliating experience to have to, as a grownup, move in with my parents and sleep on their sofa. Since that experience, I believe in karma. They got back the same negative, evil energy they put out – in spades.
I don’t know whether to laugh or just SMH at the racist Lesbians. Amazing stuff. Even though I had nothing to do with it, I’m sorry to hear that you went through that. It seems that the ordeal made your bond stronger than ever.
It really was amazing and unexpected that the people who’ve been most hateful to me over my relationship are these two lesbians. I couldn’t believe their hatefulness, when the average person is more against gay marriages than interracial marriages. They know far more than I ever will how it feels to be spited over a relationship, yet chose to treat me unfairly. I know the reason they were against me was because they didn’t like the relationship, because there there were at least three other apartments with black tenants who’d been there for some time. They definitely have a problem with interracial relationships. It’s absurd.
WOW!!
I must say, some people can be quiet interesting. How could a lesbian couple, two women who are obviously not interested in men, would have an issue with another mans female love interest? Homosexuality has always been discriminated against, its only recently people have come to respect them, you’d think knowing how taboo and abnormal their union is viewed by some, that the experience would make them a little more sympathetic and understanding of another relationship that also receives a lot of backlash from the wider society. Maybe in some ways they were attracted to you Velour LOL.
I tell you……the hypocrisy!
I didn’t get it at all. It made no sense to me that they seemed to behave like jealous women. I’m pretty sure they didn’t want me, though. They really seemed to dislike me.
Dear C,
You sound like a great guy, and your girlfriend is a lucky woman indeed! I wish all the best for your relationship.
As for my advice, I would say that it’s best not to assume anything about what she’s thinking or feeling and let her share things with you when she’s ready. Not all black women are conflicted or have fears about dating interracially… in fact, it just might be what some prefer and what they have been doing all along!
I faced no pressures about dating a white man (in fact, my family would have been surprised if I wasn’t dating one, lol) and the man I married clearly could tell how at ease I was with him. The only thoughts and feelings I had as we were dating was that I hoped he was “the one” and that I could finally stop looking!
Black women are so very unique and different (like all women) and we all have different experiences. What you might have experienced with one could be completely different with another. So just be yourself, assume nothing and just learn about her and what makes her tick… you might be surprised at her ease about being in a relationship with you!
Totally agree, Bunny77. Welcome to the site.
I can really relate to “C” and his thoughts of IR dating and marriage. I had a similar but differently directed problem when I was in college. It was the middle 70′s and IR dating, which was much more common on college campus’s, was not yet in mainstream American. I too fell in love with a black girl; she was working in the college dining room to help pay for her tuition. She was alway very nice to me and we seemed to finish each others sentences. I worked up the nerve to ask her out, not knowing how a black woman would react to a white guy asking her out. She seemed really happy that I’d asked her out and that was a great relief. I was in grad school and therefore still dependent on my parents. I wasn’t really worried about it because they had brought me up to be color blind. I found out that they were only saying that and didn’t feel that way in their hearts. They told me they didn’t want a black daughter-in-law and they didn’t want brown grandchildren. I didn’t know what to say. When I went back to college my girlfriend knew something was wrong——and she guessed the truth. I was financially dependent on my parent and we both knew it. This was the 70′s and things were incredibly different then. If it had happened today it would have been so much different. “C” is lucky its 2012. And I’m very happy for him. This country has been cruelly unfair to black people, but it doesn’t know how unfair its been to white guys like me who love black women.
I’m really sorry that it didn’t work out for you, and you lost the great love of your life all of those years ago. I’m sure it’s very difficult to through that. I’m glad you choose to encourage white men and black women today who do have the opportunity to follow their hearts to not let anything be an obstacle, thanks.
JJ in PA,
Have you ever tried to find your long lost love? After all it’s now 2012, and times have changed…
You wrote: “This country has been cruelly unfair to black people, but it doesn’t realize how unfair it has been to white guys like me who love black women.”
It all depends on who you ask… My great great great grandfather died in a corn field near Mananas VA in the Battle of Bull Run, wearing union blue, and serving this country… this was certainly not an act of crudity. This country has been wonderful to black people… it’s just that we still have groups who harbor deep seated hate and fear even to this day… this is a very sad thing… its so much easier to just love.
As I think about this black women I’m now crazy in love with, I think how lucky I am for my g-g-g Granddad’s sacrifice… I can’t even imagine “owning” this woman I love, it’s such a foreign concept to even ponder. Thank God it’s 2012, but we still have a lot of work to do.
So about your old girl friend, whats stopping you?
C
That’s a great question C. It’s now 2012 and nothing is stopping ANY of us from following our hearts. If anything stops us, today, that is our own fault. It’s always nice to see a man’s perspective written in blogs and posted in the comment section.
C and Mari82,
Thank you for your encouragement, but the thing is that was 35 years ago. I married someone else and I learned from friends that she married someone else too. Some of us are in sync with our times, some of us aren’t. But at least I can look to a future where IR dating has become a lot healthier now that when I was in college. I like the idea that things have changed. Even though it can’t help me now, I’m happy for today’s young people.
Being a divorced father of a nine yr old and a 3 yr old, I recently engaged in a long conversation with a co-worker as she attempted to convince me that black women make better mates. She is black, and I am white. She has dated other races, and in fact has a biracial child. She made some really good points. In fact, she touched on many of the characteristics that I want in a mate. However, at the time, I felt she described a good mate, but did not convince me that I would more likely find this in a black woman. Perhaps deep down inside I was hoping she was correct. I don’t know. I have never dated a black woman, though I will admit that I find black women very attractive. Should the opportunity present itself, I plan to.
Even now, I find myself wondering if she was correct. Perhaps black women are more prone to stand by your side during hard times, more affectionate, more passionate, more durable in the challenges of life, more family oriented, more attentive, etc. Of course these are many of the points that she made. I hope not to be inundated with responses stating the obvious, that good women come in all shapes and colors. I do hope to spur some interesting responses that either support or oppose my co-worker’s statements. For myself, while I do believe that good women come in every color, for some odd reason, I find myself noticing the characteristics that I desire are prevalent in black women that I encounter. Maybe I am just noticing black women more. I don’t know. What do you think?
I value family and am family-oriented, due to being raised in a home in which these qualities were taught and demonstrated by two parents who’ve been married for over 3 and a half decades, and because most adults I grew up around were married or eventually got married. Black women who were raised differently may still value family life, though, and greatly appreciate having one, simply because that is something they always wanted but never had. My spouse and I have been through trying times even before marriage and stuck them out – but now it’s more powerful, since both of us believe marriage is forever (assuming there is no abuse in the relationship). I am attentive, affectionate and passionate to my spouse, and he with me, because we love each other, and we take seriously our responsibility to make our partner happy. Catering to your spouse does have returns in the quality of the relationship; it causes the relationship to blossom and the bond to strengthen.
I speak for myself, though that is not what you asked for. I won’t get into knocking the qualities of any other group of women, because it would just seems catty. Any woman who goes there would only be making herself look bad.
You are interested in dating black women, but may not have much luck with a black woman you’d like to date if you intend to put her in this awkward position. You seem to be saying that we must make catty remarks about other groups of women before you’ll consider dating a black woman (I could be wrong, but see no way of answering your question without resorting to cattiness). It seems odd to have to convince a man that your group is better than some other before he’s willing to date you. If your previous relationship have been with white women, she may wonder if you required them to stoop to that behavior before you were willing to date one. Black women are women, and therefore, will prefer men to see them as individual women, get to know them as individual women, and treat them as individual women. If a man feels uncomfortable with the idea of getting to know a woman as an individual because of her color, and needs to be comforted with stereotypes first, then he may discover that he’s not a good candidate for a relationship with a woman of another color. It’s not enough to say that women are individuals…you must know she is and treat her as an individual person, or your relationship won’t move beyond the shallow.
Well, I have asked my husband a few inappropriate questions, such as, “Why do white people like extreme, risky sports such as bungee jumping?” and he has asked me a few things about black people, lol (I do it more) – but we were already in a serious, long-term relationship and engaged, and knew that the other was really only joking. Normally, people don’t like to be made the mouthpiece of a “racial” group. Their individual actions speak for themselves. Individual women demonstrate their marriageable characteristics to men during the dating process, and vice versa. This may not be the answer you’re looking for, but it’s the one I can provide.
It’s a fair answer. You made some really great points, most of which I’d thought about but you drove them home. That said, the idea that I discussed in my original message is still fresh on my mind. I will have to deal with that. Thanks for responding.
Speaking, as I did above, about my black girlfriend in grad school, there were many people who asked me, “What do you like about her.” I answered, “I’ve liked black girls since high school, but it isn’t her color that attracted me to her.” It was how we finished each others sentences; how we weren’t content unless we were together; how we looked forward to being with each other; how I thought about how see smiled, how she said my name, how I loved holding her hand. They say there’s a perfect match out there for everyone. I found it in her. That something as unimportant as her color meant so much to other people surprised me. That is kept us apart was an outrage. Now that things are so much different I am so happy that today’s young people don’t have to go through what she and I did. In this regard the world is a better place now. I had nothing to do with it, but I’m still happy. An old man can look back on his past the way a younger person can’t. I have my memories. That’s enough for me.
Thanks for sharing your story. In that, you mentioned that you liked black girls even in high school. So obviously you already had a taste for black women. I intend this in the most respectful way, but what was it about them for you? Was it physical or something else that attracted you? I’m just trying gain a better sense of what you were saying in your reply.
Even if the relationship, unfortunately, did not last, I know it meant a lot to you to be able to experience that sort of love once in a lifetime.
Some people don’t think that a white man and a black woman can be that close, that in sync, that they become like one. Yet you once felt that as a white man in a relationship with a black woman and I feel that with my spouse. That’s why I vehemently disagree with Robin Thicke’s statement warning black women not to date white men because most supposedly can’t understand.
To Eyes:
I liked the different shades of color. The fuller lips. The nice round bottom (boys will be boys). Actually there wasn’t much I didn’t like about them. It was the same way that some guys like blondes, some like redheads, some guys think Italian girls are really beautiful, others like Asian women. I guess its just an individual preference. I never really thought a lot about it. If I had brought home an Italian, Asian, native American girl, etc. no one would have said a word, but because she was black it changed the entire picture. I guess it just took a little longer for others to catch up to me. That’s the best I can tell you. Just think of it as a preference. I don’t think there’s any deep psychological meaning behind it. Just preference.
Yes, I concur with those attributes. Black women really are quite nice. I’m not trying to over think it (at least I don’t think so) but I do think it is responsible for me to explore this interest for myself. Perhaps I’m reading too many articles on this website, LOL. Thanks.
Yup, I think too much.
@Eyes I think you should go for it, though. All the best.
Velour is right. You’ve got nothing to lose. You might be very happily pleased.
Yes, I definitely will. I look forward to the experience.
Eyes on him,
Yes, great women come in all shapes and colors, but that is not really the issue here. What is important is that you (not) rule out a group of otherwise great women based on mere skin color. By admission, you’ve never dated outside your race before, so have at least inadvertently ruled out many fine compatible women from your life, by accident if for no other reason.
You will discover that some white and black women are horrible compatibility matches for you, and you will discover that some white and black women are wonderful for you, just don’t limit yourself.
It’s Ok to admit you are attracted to black or brown women… It’s Ok to admit if you like blue eyed blonds… it’s Ok to admit if you like small busts or large… it’s Ok to admit if you like the sophisticated woman, or the HS dropout who desires to be barefoot and pregnant. it’s your preference, and yours alone.
What you’ve talked about in your various posts here is sort of what I was trying to draw out of people in my original letter to Velour. It’s the subtle, deeply ingrained stereotype of interracial relationships. It’s that self-blocking mechanism that exists inside us that we honestly don’t even realize we have which limits our choices, and alters the outcomes our lives could become.
You are very lucky that this black women friend of yours felt strong enough to talk to you about IR. I’m glad to hear that you have decided to remove this internal block; it may allow you to discover the woman of your dreams, who just may very well be a black woman.
Keep us posted on how it goes.
I agree with all you’ve said. While I cannot speak from experience, I just keep noticing that many black women I meet seem to have something other’s do not seem to have. They seem to have more heart, more soul, more depth. I look forward to finding out. Thanks for the encouraging words.
I have another post sent to me after this one by a 21-year-old white guy in college who met a young lady whom he felt he’d want to marry. I’ll post that one up this week, likely in just a few short hours.
Hours turned into a week, because life happened…
Ok, here we go http://interracialintersection.com/will-marrying-interracially-negatively-affect-my-career/
Velour, I just remembered watching one of your videos in which you make a case that divorce rates among white men and black women are lower than some of the other racial mixes. I understand that you were not saying that a white man & a black woman are guaranteed not to divorce, but you were saying something about a white man & a black woman. I can’t help but believe that you are suggesting something special about that pairing. Am I right? Will you expand on that, because the video assisted in the process of opening my mind.
Well, yes, studies – including the study “‘But Will It Last?’: Marital Instability Among Interracial and Same-Race Couples,” which I cited in my video – do indicate that marriages between black women and white men tend to last the longest.
I was not necessarily saying anything about black women and white men as collectivities. I was informing my viewership that, despite the common belief that interracial marriages don’t last, marriages between black women and white men tend to last longer on average than other forms of interracial marriages, and longer than many same-race marriages, including white/white marriages.
I was not insinuating that marriages between black women and white men will somehow magically work simply because they are white men and black women together. All marriages require both people to cherish the relationship enough to be willing to put in the effort necessary to make it endure.
Maybe many of the black women/white men couples who have married tend to value marriage, and to find the qualities they are looking for in a lifelong companion in each other.
Here’s a link:
But will it last?
See Table 4.
@ eyes on him
I’m very attracted to black women too, but I don’t like generalizations comparing one culture of women’s personalities to another. I have no problem with feeling a stronger attraction toward certain physical characteristics, but I’m sure you can find women with good and bad personalities in every culture or ethnicity.
Interracial relationship is something very tough to manage and handle. I love your perspective on this particular topic.
I like this story very much. IT is very well written.
Thanks for sharing.
-Peter
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Your story is an inspiration to everyone hoping to have a successful marriage. Marriage interracial or not have the same probabilities of either failing or succeeding. It is always on the couples strength and determination to conquer all the trials and challenges.
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This is a very inspiring story. I really hope that stereotypes will be stopped so people would enjoy equal treatment. How long have you been together with your partner?
-Mara
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