(This article was written by Zeus of The Social Gods.)
This article answers questions by a male reader. How can a decent, quality man who’s interested in an interracial relationship meet a classy, pretty black lady? How should he approach her?
You can meet classy, fit women at shoe stores or high fashion stores, while you’re on the line at a store or restaurant, at social gatherings, ethnic parades or fairs, on the plane. A single man has to break the old belief that he can only meet women in a club.
Talk to a black woman like any other woman. Imagine you’re old friends, and start up a casual chat with her about something she’s doing or something that’s going on around the two of you.
If a woman is talking to you and laughing, and says it was great talking to you, its usually a great sign that she’s open to going out.
Like any other woman, there’s no guarantee that a black woman will say yes to exchanging phone numbers or setting a date. If you lack the confidence to take a chance, you have no business trying to get a date in the first place. As long as you dress nicely and don’t say or do something stupid or disrespectful, and you show a great personality (a good personality comes with practice), you have half the battle won.
A woman can tell when you lack confidence, so don’t seem desperate. Many men will automatically shower a woman with too many compliments or offer to buy her stuff such as drinks, hoping that if he talks to her long enough or buys her enough things, he will eventually get a date. This shows that he possibly hasn’t had a date in a long time. Unless a woman likes your personality and trusts you, she will never give you her number or go on a date with you.
You should know what you want in a woman just like she knows what she wants from you. There should be certain qualities and personalities that you look for in a woman so that you don’t only have a physical attraction but also a mental connection. You should never settle just because you want a black woman or she’s the first woman to talk to you in over ten years.
For those men who are less confident, you have to believe that things will go great when interacting with women. Picture in your mind that you’re talking to a great woman who’s attractive, has a great personality and is laughing and enjoying your company. If you start having doubts while picturing this scenario, stop yourself and force yourself to imagine a positive outcome. Always expect the best case scenario, and you’ll be more likely to get good results. It will take practice, but like anything else in life, with hard work, dedication and a positive frame of mind you can accomplish anything you want. And that includes dating.