You ask and I answer basic questions frequently asked about my blog, YouTube videos, or interracial relationships involving black women.

1. What motivated you to create your blog?

To me, my relationship has never been anything out of the ordinary.  As a woman of Caribbean heritage, I was raised to see all people of the Caribbean as one regardless of color, so I just think of people as people. Not only do I have several black women relatives who are married to white or Asian men, but I’ve always dated interracially without a second thought (most of my attractions have been interracial). Now I’m married to a man who has different features from me, but I simply see my husband as a human being I’m very compatible with, whose company I enjoy and who I’m happy with. I created the blog to enlighten and encourage black women who are interested in interracial relationships, because I recently fully realized what a huge deal interracial relationships is to some people – in a negative way, due to certain experiences I’ve had mostly on the internet. Black women should, like anyone else, feel free to love and spend your time or life with the one who makes YOU happiest.

2. Don’t you think black women are the only group who talk about our interracial relationships, and do you think it’s a bad thing to talk about it?

No. I see plenty of videos on YouTube from black men or white women talking about how much they love and deserve each other, Asian women talking about their attraction to white men, white women talking about their attraction to Asian men, and Asian men talking about their attraction to black women. Some people may try to make black women feel funny about talking about interracial relationships because they hope to keep us from spreading knowledge to other black women, so black women will be easily swayed by all the misinformation about black women and interracial relationships.

3. Do you plan to write or make videos about other interracial relationships, like ones involving black men, white women or Asian women?

Nope. It has nothing to do with my life, and thus doesn’t interest me at all. None of those people usually write or make videos about black women’s interracial relationships (or at least definitely not writings or videos supporting the idea of black women dating interracially, at least) – and notice I’m not asking them to do so. Those who want to read about or view other relationships are invited to search Google or create their own.

4. Do you have any plans to write a book advising black women on interracial relationships?

No. I’ve been asked, but ultimately decided not to.

5. Are you a part of some movement?

No, none. I’m not a huge fan of movements in general. They usually involve group think, when I’m a free and independent thinker and nonconformist. I don’t follow others blindly or seek blind followers. I support people thinking for themselves. I think a black woman who thinks she might be interested in interracial relationships should go for it. I also support her being or becoming a happy, whole, healthy, fulfilled woman in every sense. There may be some bloggers who have some ideas that happen to align with some of mine, but they won’t agree with me on everything, and vice versa.

6. Do you bash black men?
I don’t set out to demonize anyone. It seems cruel and unnecessary. However, I don’t shy away from laying out the facts or debunking myths in the face of rampant misinformation, even if the truth happens to be unflattering to someone. Anyway, I don’t think that what black men are or aren’t like is directly related to a blog about black women in interracial relationships. No one should have to be seen or painted as a demon in order for someone to be interested in dating or marrying another person, because we’re all free to be in a relationship with whomever we want to for whatever the reason.

7. Why can’t people who disagree with interracial relationships comment on your blog and videos?

Who someone chooses to date or spend his or her life with is a personal decision. It does not need anyone’s stamp of approval, much less that of a complete stranger on the internet. Those who don’t agree with interracial relationships simply shouldn’t be in interracial relationships, and should have the manners and maturity to allow others to also do what’s right for themselves. If they expect everyone in the world to conform to what they agree or disagree with, they’ll be very miserable. They will suffer if they choose not to accept that, like them, others are free to make their own decisions, meaning those who want to date and marry interracially WILL do so, and there’s nothing they can do about it. Therefore, they’re better off minding their own business. If they have trouble with doing so, I’m not above offering assistance, and teaching them manners.

8. I heard [this rumor] about you. May you clarify whether it’s true or not?

Sorry, but no. I refuse to take the time out of my day, including the time I devote to discussing my actual message, to listen to or respond to petty attacks. My ONLY position is and has only ever been that black women who want to date white, Asian or Latino men are at liberty to do so. Either one agrees with this position, or one does not. Only each individual can determine his or her own position. Since I’m not looking for blind followers and seeking to be anyone’s leader, my character as an individual is irrelevant. Ad hominem attacks are standard from those who realize that their own position is unjustifiable. They suspect that there’s no logical way for them to feel they should have the authority over a random adult woman’s decision regarding which individual man she chooses to spend her personal time with or chooses as her life partner. Since they can’t logically attack my position, they take the lazy way out and attack me in the hopes that destroying my credibility will tarnish the position I stand for as well by association. They also probably hope to distract me from talking about my actual position by keeping me too busy defending myself against every character assassination attempt, petty remark and other forms of psychological warfare (i.e. attacks on my appearance, which is typical psychological warfare launched against women), straw man, and distortion of my position, instead. Please do not waste your time and mine by reporting rumors to me some rumor that you’ve heard about me, because you’ll never find a time when I’m slightly interested. I may even suspect that you are aligned with those creating the rumors. If you’re genuinely concerned about me, then please not that I don’t mind rumors too much. The reason I can put myself out there like this knowing I’ll be attacked is precisely because I have the self-confidence to not be easily destroyed. Also…there’s no such thing as bad press. A bit of controversy causes people to get curious about what I’m all about, and see for themselves.